Friends!

On Thanksgiving I was with a bunch of my closest friends and we did that thing where everybody goes around and says what they’re grateful for. I thought about it as my turn approached and took a general accounting of my life. A few years ago, that mental “are my bases covered?” question would usually look like a rundown of a checklist including certain account balances, whether my car was clean, oil change recently done?, basically a bunch of regular, practical life concerns.… read more


The dumb layer

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Ok this is going to be quick and dirty.

I just finished a session with a client who keeps getting trapped in front of men’s dumb layer. That’s what I called it today in our session right before I told her I was going to write a blog about it.

What is the dumb layer? It’s the foggy virus that takes over our psyches when a makeout is looming close.read more


Improv and Venture Capital

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In my life I have had the good fortune of being exposed to many great teachers and schools of thought. Two of the best lessons I’ve learned intersect at a fascinating juncture. They are improv acting and venture capital.

A few years ago, I was in an improv class with a brilliant teacher. She was teaching us about offers. In improv, an offer is simply the moment when you see an opening in a scene taking place that you could fit inside of.… read more


OneTaste Audio: 5 Things I’ve Learned from the Feminine

Here’s the audio from a lecture I recently gave on what I’ve learned from the feminine. Recorded at OneTaste SF on 7/9/14.

 

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Catch a Wave

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Attempting to construct a “consistent sex life” based on our ideas of what we should have will always leave us unfulfilled even if we manage to get it.

The nutrient we are all looking for is naturally inconsistent.

The best we can truly hope for is to become a skillful surfer and learn to catch a wave.… read more


What did you see?

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I saw that there is a fine film of love and having and gentle power in the world.

It has symbolic worth to the masculine though it’s frightening to him. Frightening because his rules aren’t built to understand the feminine. Many of the things it uses as daily tools for conquest, possession, separating things from each other into their utilitarian usable components don’t make a lot of sense in a feminine world.… read more


The thing that matters most

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We men have been told a lot of things about what makes a good makeout, good sex, how to keep your partner interested, etc. Including but not limited to:
– A big cock
– The ability to stay hard
– Some crazy large variety of partners
– Score “perfect 10s”, Bro.
– Lasting forever (your cock is a divining rod meaning learn to listen to what it’s saying, don’t dictate to it).… read more


Alchemy and Pride

On alchemy and pride/arrogance – It’s occurring to me that pride is perhaps one of the greatest if not the greatest obstacle to alchemy and magic. The two are literally diametrically opposed. With a prideful heart one will go it alone, maintaining an image of full self-sufficiency and not needing anything. “See, I didn’t need any help, I can do it on my own.” However, the alchemist’s main practice is using/transforming/converting anything and everything needed for their purposes.… read more


Haiku for a Turned On Woman

Lay down protection
It’s more fun when you’re both free
Everything is play… read more


d’OM

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When I lived in Boulder I joined the local PUA MeetUp group just to see what was shaking. It turned out not much and soon the organizer of the MeetUp abandoned it. I bought his MeetUp out for like $20 and started sending invitations to TurnON. Nobody ever showed up. Except one day this good looking, affable guy in his 20s walked in and introduced himself as the former organizer of the MeetUp.… read more